Wednesday, February 10, 2010

The Perfect Valentine

As you know, Valentine’s Day is all about love. But do you know one of the best (and easiest) ways to express your love for someone? Just tell them how you feel about them. Okay, maybe you can’t always verbally express what you are feeling, but with a little effort, anyone can write a simple love note.

So how do you get started? Close your eyes and picture your loved one. What do you appreciate most about them? It may be their crooked little smile, their willingness to pitch in to help, their sense of humor, their support for you, the care they give your aging parents or the home-cooked meals they offer.

Whatever it is, they’d probably like to hear you show your appreciation once in a while.

Years ago when I was a kid growing up on the farm, my great-aunt used to bring us clothes and shoes from the upscale dress shop where she worked. I was the only of all my sisters who could fit into the fancy high-heeled shoes that I loved. I could tell how pleased she was to see my enjoyment of them.

As an adult, I wondered what she saw in me as a clumsy tom-boy to think that I could ever clean up so well. I finally mailed her a long letter telling her how much I appreciated her vision and kindness. My plan was to follow up and visit her, then take her out to lunch, but I ran out of time.

Just a few months after I finally wrote to her, she passed away suddenly and I lost the chance to talk in person.

So my point is to let people you care about know what they mean to you now, while you still can. Just a little note or a few words scribbled onto a card may make someone’s day. Why not use Valentine's Day as a reason to express your love?

Who do YOU appreciate? How can you tell or show them? I’d love to hear what works for you.

2 comments:

Patty Newbold said...

What a sweet remembrance of your aunt, Beth. I'm reading this a couple days late, but perhaps Mardi Gras is another great day for remembrances. I have one to send to my son, from our days of living just off the St. Charles parade route.

Beth (Elizabeth) LaMie said...

Thanks, Patty. There are so many little things that we are all grateful for. Sharing them with another person who was involved is a great way to acknowledge how much they mean to us.

Your suggestion on Mardi Gras is another good source for ideas. Enjoy the day today!